20 10 / 2014

20 10 / 2014

Wanda Sykes

We need to stop feeding into this idea that the advancement and achievements of white women speak for women in general, including women in comedy.

We will not achieve equality if white women are all we care about and the needs of white women are the only things we are channeling our energy toward.

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20 10 / 2014

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The fact is that any time you call Anita Sarkeesian or Zoe Quinn a gendered slur and send hateful tweets and other visible messages and make misogynistic comments on their videos or articles about them, or perpetuate misogynistic tropes and unsupported rumors about them, there’s a good chance that a man who truly hates women enough to possibly physically harm them will see it and be assured that he is in the right. That his desire to hurt them is supported, that he is not alone, that everyone feels the same way he does, and he will be defended and hailed as a hero by many others if he threatens or hurts them or their loved ones.

So congratulations, gamer boys who posted vile hate about Anita all over the Internet. This shit is on you. If someone does get hurt or killed, it’s on you. Fuck you for that.

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Misogynistic Guy Gamers: The Threats Against Anita Sarkeesian Are On All of You

19 10 / 2014

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19 10 / 2014

time to get our shit together carol

We rightfully spend a lot of time telling men to grow the hell up and stay out of comment sections until they can evolve and act like actual human beings. That we don’t really need or want their commentary unless they can hike up their big boy pants and bring something worthwhile to the table. 

But what I’ve observed over and over again, is that, as white women, we don’t hold ourselves to the same standards.

When the author is a woman or person of color, who is either speaking out about lived experiences that we don’t share, or shining some light on the ways in which they are not aligned with the whiteness that is not only comfortable and familiar to us, but also affords us protection, we are quick to work up an incredible amount of naked hostility.

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19 10 / 2014

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When I was younger, I would sometimes think about a future that included a husband and two kids, but the kids were usually a footnote in a fantasy that involved being a novelist or a high-powered business woman or traveling the world as a fashion journalist.

More often than not, these fantasies occurred without any thoughts of children, or with me wondering how on earth I’d be able to reconcile raising kids AND having my dream career AND having the freedom to travel as I so longed to do. When I grew into young adulthood, I figured out that the two kids didn’t actually need to be in the picture, and I abandoned that part of my fantasies pretty easily.

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19 10 / 2014

1950-1962:

I think about this a lot. This is so important. Andrea Gibson is so important.

1950-1962:

I think about this a lot. This is so important. Andrea Gibson is so important.

18 10 / 2014

"Again, I have to ask, Why not use a black model? There is an unspoken awkwardness looking at Brauw posing in ridiculously stereotypical stances, which lets me know that whoever designed this shoot probably didn’t do a lick of research to educate themselves about the significance of the tribal markings or the traditional African clothing. They probably saw The Lion King on Broadway and thought, There’s an idea.”

Dear Fashion Industry, We Need to Talk About Blackface

18 10 / 2014

style lab edit

Clothing is only an “investment” in that it’s an investment in you, in your comfort and well-being and self-confidence. Don’t let yourself get talked into something you’re not going to wear, or don’t really like, on the grounds that it’s very, very beautiful and it looks high-status. You won’t look high-status in anything you hate wearing.

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18 10 / 2014

18 10 / 2014

tangoladude:

I’m not gonna do my whole head just yet, but I wanted to share with you guys some hair dying tips in case anyone is thinking of dying their hair for the first time like I am! (The white stuff in the bowl is conditioner that you mix your dye of choice into)

For more tips and the source of where I got these photos, visit

feminspire.com

Hope this helps, please enjoy!

17 10 / 2014

pumpkinspiceaddiction:

For when being a girl gets tough and you just gotta sing it out.

01. Fighter Christina Aguilera // 02. Girls Just Want to Have Fun Cyndi Lauper // 03. Grown Woman Beyonce // 04. Hold On Alabama Shakes // 05. Roar Katy Perry // 06. Secrets Mary Lambert // 07. Try Colbie Caillat // 08. Wings Little Mix // 09. Be OK Ingrid Michaelson // 10. Rainbowarriors CocoRosie // 11. Celebrity Skin Hole // 12. So What P!nk // 13. Let it Go Demi Lovato // 14. Hero Mariah Carey // 15. Independent Women pt 1 Destiny’s Child // 16. Stronger Kelly Clarkson // 17. Bitch Meredith Brooks // 18. Shake it Out Florence + the Machine // 19. Since U Been Gone Kelly Clarkson // 20. the Middle Jimmy Eat World // 21. Survivor Destiny’s Child // 22. Try P!nk // 23. True Colors Cyndi Lauper // 24. Just Fine Mary J Blige // 25. Dark Side Kelly Clarkson // 26. Hate On Me Jill Scott // 27. This One’s For the Girls Martina McBride // 28. I’m Legit Nicki Minaj ft Ciara // 29. Bleed Like Me Garbage // 30. Firework Katy Perry // 31. Smile Michael Jackson // 32. Man! I Feel Like a Woman Shania Twain //  33. Run the World Beyonce // 34. Louder Lea Michele // 35. Nobody Ever Told You Carrie Underwood // 36. Big Girl (You Are Beautiful) Mika // 37. You Learn Alanis Morissette // 38. Starships Nicki Minaj // 39. Unpretty TLC // 40. Bootylicious Destiny’s Child // 41. ***Flawless Beyonce ft. Chimamanda Ngozi Adiche // 42. Sum of Our Parts Mary Lambert // 43. Raise Your Glass P!nk // 44. Believe in Me Demi Lovato // 45. Girl Destiny’s Child // 46. Who You Are Jessie J // 47. Soar Christina Aguilera // 48. Stronger Britney Spears // 49. 21st Century Girl Willow Smith // 50. Just a Girl No Doubt // 51. Hand in My Pocket Alanis Morissette // 52. Fuckin’ Perfect P!nk // 53. Keep on Singin’ My Song Christina Aguilera // 54. I’m Not a Girl, Not Yet a Woman Britney Spears // 55. Video India.Arie // 56. Dancing Queen ABBA // 57. Girl on Fire Alicia Keys // 58. Keep Holding On Avril Lavigne // 59. Just the Way You Are Bruno Mars // 60. Beautiful Christina Aguilera // 61. Titanium David Guetta ft Sia // 62. You Gotta Be Des’ree // 63. I Am Me Willow Smith // 64. Diamonds Rihanna // 65. Hold On Wilson Phillips // 66. People Like Us Kelly Clarkson // 67. Piece of Me Britney Spears // 68. Pretty Girl Rock Keri Hilson // 69. Born This Way Lady Gaga // 70. I Hope You Dance Lee Ann Womack // 71.  You Get What You Give New Radicals // 72. New Soul Yael Naim // 73. It’s My Life No Doubt // 74. Brave Sara Bareilles // 75. Who Says Selena Gomez & the Scene // 76. Whip My Hair Willow Smith
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pumpkinspiceaddiction:

For when being a girl gets tough and you just gotta sing it out.

01Fighter Christina Aguilera // 02Girls Just Want to Have Fun Cyndi Lauper // 03Grown Woman Beyonce // 04Hold On Alabama Shakes // 05. Roar Katy Perry // 06. Secrets Mary Lambert // 07. Try Colbie Caillat // 08. Wings Little Mix // 09. Be OK Ingrid Michaelson // 10. Rainbowarriors CocoRosie // 11. Celebrity Skin Hole // 12. So What P!nk // 13. Let it Go Demi Lovato // 14. Hero Mariah Carey // 15. Independent Women pt 1 Destiny’s Child // 16. Stronger Kelly Clarkson // 17. Bitch Meredith Brooks // 18. Shake it Out Florence + the Machine // 19. Since U Been Gone Kelly Clarkson // 20. the Middle Jimmy Eat World // 21. Survivor Destiny’s Child // 22. Try P!nk // 23. True Colors Cyndi Lauper // 24. Just Fine Mary J Blige // 25. Dark Side Kelly Clarkson // 26. Hate On Me Jill Scott // 27. This One’s For the Girls Martina McBride // 28. I’m Legit Nicki Minaj ft Ciara // 29. Bleed Like Me Garbage // 30. Firework Katy Perry // 31. Smile Michael Jackson // 32. Man! I Feel Like a Woman Shania Twain //  33. Run the World Beyonce // 34. Louder Lea Michele // 35. Nobody Ever Told You Carrie Underwood // 36. Big Girl (You Are Beautiful) Mika // 37. You Learn Alanis Morissette // 38. Starships Nicki Minaj // 39. Unpretty TLC // 40. Bootylicious Destiny’s Child // 41. ***Flawless Beyonce ft. Chimamanda Ngozi Adiche // 42. Sum of Our Parts Mary Lambert // 43. Raise Your Glass P!nk // 44. Believe in Me Demi Lovato // 45. Girl Destiny’s Child // 46. Who You Are Jessie J // 47. Soar Christina Aguilera // 48. Stronger Britney Spears // 49. 21st Century Girl Willow Smith // 50. Just a Girl No Doubt // 51. Hand in My Pocket Alanis Morissette // 52. Fuckin’ Perfect P!nk // 53. Keep on Singin’ My Song Christina Aguilera // 54. I’m Not a Girl, Not Yet a Woman Britney Spears // 55. Video India.Arie // 56. Dancing Queen ABBA // 57. Girl on Fire Alicia Keys // 58. Keep Holding On Avril Lavigne // 59. Just the Way You Are Bruno Mars // 60. Beautiful Christina Aguilera // 61. Titanium David Guetta ft Sia // 62. You Gotta Be Des’ree // 63. I Am Me Willow Smith // 64. Diamonds Rihanna // 65. Hold On Wilson Phillips // 66. People Like Us Kelly Clarkson // 67. Piece of Me Britney Spears // 68. Pretty Girl Rock Keri Hilson // 69. Born This Way Lady Gaga // 70. I Hope You Dance Lee Ann Womack // 71.  You Get What You Give New Radicals // 72. New Soul Yael Naim // 73. It’s My Life No Doubt // 74. Brave Sara Bareilles // 75. Who Says Selena Gomez & the Scene // 76. Whip My Hair Willow Smith

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17 10 / 2014

Feminist Cake topper

I feel like I’m constantly on the defensive. I’m defense of my own relationship, my own story, and how even though—to some—it may look traditional and like I’m following some “high school sweetheart” storyline, that I am an equal partner in this relationship and have an equal say in the decision-making process. 

I am not some doll who waited around until “my man” was ready to commit and decorate me with a sparkly ring. I’m also defensive toward others who see the fact that it was actually my idea to have the wedding as evidence that I’ve somehow manipulated the commitment-phobe man (because they’re all afraid of commitment, even those ones who have been with you for almost a decade and have been nothing but committed and available and caring) into marriage, because that’s what the bitchy, controlling women do.

And apparently the idea that I nagged him into it is supposed to be funny? (See, told you I was defensive.)

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17 10 / 2014

seulementpourlesamoureux:

belinsky:

grimsdark:

The next time a guy complains about being friendzoned, send him this picture.

#sometimes people just need to be told what’s what by a critical whale

saving this to my computer, tablet, and phone

seulementpourlesamoureux:

belinsky:

grimsdark:

The next time a guy complains about being friendzoned, send him this picture.

saving this to my computer, tablet, and phone

(Source: peregrinemendicant)

17 10 / 2014

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“Basic” does not mean liking plain, normal, or everyday things. It does not only refer to being your standard all-American white girl, though many of them are by default pretty basic. It means being a simple motherfucker. It means being new, childish, obtuse, unimportant, forgettable, or obvious in your behavior, mentality, workings, machinations, bullshittery, and drama. 

It means “We all see you, boo, you are not clever.” 

This is all important to note because AAVE still, to this day, doesn’t get the play and respect it deserves, but is still occasionally vastly misused and beaten to death by mainstream white society (see “Twerk”, “Turnt”, “Shade”, “Bae”, “Low Key”, etc).

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